October 09, 2003

thoughts about my cousins

The discussion on Beautiful Monsters about adoption got me thinking about my cousins.
They are about 30 now, and are identical twin girls, who are at least half fijian. My aunt is of solely european heritage, and she adopted the twins immediately after their birth. Aunt lost some friends over the twins - some of her friends were rude about the little brown babies, and so they were told if you can't accept my girls, you'll have to go. I've got a lot of respect for my aunt over that.
But the twins haven't only been the subject of racism. They are also discriminated against because they are adopted - they are not Csidered family enough to inherit family jewellery when women die in my family (so far).
And then they get twin discrimination - again when my grandmother was dying there were things they couldn't have, because there weren't two identical things for them to have.

But really the thing that sprung to my mind when reading the comments on Fi's blog entry was that it is not true that brown babies are not wanted by white middle class adoptees. There is a policy in the adoption unit in CYFS that they try to keep ethic groups together, but I don't know any adoptees that are set on having a kid of their own colour. Guess there are though - there's all kinds in the world, but most adoptive parents are just fair desperate for a kid, healthy. End of description.

Posted by Toni at October 9, 2003 09:16 AM

Does CYFS say why they try to keep ethnic groups together?

Posted by: iona at October 9, 2003 03:57 PM

I can't remember now, I was reading the info they give to prospective adoptive parents when some friends were considering it. I would imagine it was to do with people maintaining their cultural links (perhaps, its a wild assumption that any parent has a cultural link and not just a genetic one) and not having to explain why some of the family look so obviously different from the others. It seems kind of old fashioned now, as being adopted is a much more open process for a lot of people now.

Posted by: toni at October 9, 2003 06:35 PM