June 15, 2005

This could be the decision that decides Cn's career in sport

Cn has been playing soccer for the Panther's. They are coached by a very nice man, but they are not learning many skills. There is a lot of mucking round, and I don't think the kids have learnt anything so far. They have a pretty good time, there's no pressure.

His mate in his class at school has been playing for the Bumblebee's. And they rock. The kids know to aim for the goal, and they are learning how to do headers, and how to kick the ball. Coach turns up with a plan, and there is a bit of discipline going on. They win quite a lot. Tonight Cn learnt a couple of things already.

Because he was invited to join the Bumblebees, and said he would give it a go. So we went tonight, but he found it was pretty hard work, and so he started to just drift, fairy like, round the back of the field, till he actually lay down for a rest. !

He knows he would learn a lot more with the bees, but he doesn't want to have to do the work. I'm afraid I'm pushing for the bees, cos if you are going to do this stuff, you might as well learn to do SOMEthing. It is usually more fun doing sport if you have some skills, and you only get them if you put a little effort out.

So we wait and see. h was totally into it, and spent all the time he could playing with the ball. They do have about 8 balls there, so they had one spare for him.

Interestingly, Cn reckoned he would rather read a book. And he can't read.

Also, he is only five. But if i let him just muck round now, am I setting an acceptance of a behaviour pattern that will be a big problem later on? Or am I reading too much into this? Should I just let him clown around, so he doesn't associate this stuff with work?

Posted by Toni at June 15, 2005 08:23 PM

I suspect that if his best friend develops skills and confidence that he does not have, he will soon want to catch up and get enthusiastic.

I guess I'd just be careful about disciplining a fun activity too soon. M loved riding his pony, until he got taken along to Pony Club and firmly encouraged to take part by his mum. He doesn't do PC anymore, but he also doesn't enjoy riding much either.

Posted by: phreq at June 16, 2005 07:48 AM

I reckon itís all about picking your battles. If you want him to train to become a future all white superglue his foot to the ball. (please donít take me literally). Otherwise 5 years old is a good time to have fun.

Posted by: Vincent at June 16, 2005 08:30 AM

At least he is getting out doing the exercise... and enjoying it... seems to me (though not at all an expert) that it would be better to let him come to his own decision to try and improve/learn skills, than to push too hard at this stage and put him off. I think with James I want to build a habit of exercise to last his lifetime, which doesn't necessarily mean competitive sport... though his Dad wants him to do a serious martial art(-: Not an issue yet!

Posted by: Karen at June 16, 2005 11:59 AM