I am holding back on central rpg net at the moment, because I find that if someone disagrees with me, they tend tp do it in an abrupt 'you are wrong' kind of way. Also, because of the medium people misread each other *all the time* and what they say comes off as short and kind of cold.
Apparently saying at the start of your comment "I think..." doesn't get read as "in my opinion..." meaning that by expressing an opinion without any more disclaimers than that people assume you think that your way is the only way and you despise or discard other ways.
Because of this I have been taking things personally. I don't want to carry around a hurt based on an offhand comment from a roleplaying chat forum. So I am distancing myself, I will no longer say things that people could take in a bad way at all. I will stick to light hearted silly stories of my experiences and not give my own opinion.
Which is awful, frankly. Heaps of people on there aren't scared to say exactly what they think and people-it-offends be damned. But I just don't like it when people snap at me, so I'm gonna hold back. As I think I've mentioned earlier I really hate being yelled at and people can say a lot of things via forum that they can't say in real life. It's yucky. It sucks and it shouldn't be allowed. There should be some kind of firewall on your computer that stops you from saying things you wouldn't say to the person's face.
It could sing in Opera style "Miiiissssssssstaaaaaaaaake!!!" when you do it. Heh.
Also: quote from You've Got Mail
"Why do people always say that? 'it's not personal?' that just means it's not personal to you. For me, it's personal!"
I love Meg Ryan.
Posted by jenni at March 19, 2004 03:17 PM