At church today we prayed for the people that work on the ambulances and fire trucks and also the police. I don't know if R was even listening at the time, but he was very keen to go out on the ambulance tonight.
Getting there is half the fun though. He starts his new job tomorrow, and will be driving over to Palmy to get there. So he needs to load up all his crap into the car and make lunches tonight to be ready for the big first drive, and he wants to go out on the ambulances. But does he just come to me like a grown up and say "Could you please make the lunches for me?". No, he sulks in the house, saying things like I would be going out if I didn't have all this work... I wish I didn't have to do the lunches... Did you forget I have a shift tonight?... So finally I said to him that I was sick of him not just asking for what he wants. That it would be quicker and easier if he said "Could you please help me out, and make the lunches?" and then I could say "Yes, no problem", or "Sorry but I have to ... tonight and I can't". The whole thing would be sorted out so quickly if he could say what he wanted, instead of hinting hinting HINTING until I just tell him to feck off.
I must have finally got through to him, because he asked (rhetorically) later, "Why do I make my life so difficult? Why don't I just ask for what I want?" Hopefully this is the start of a change in his behavior - and a change in our relationship. It would actually mean he was behaving like a grown up instead of my oldest child (at times). That would be quite cool, but then I would have to start liaising instead of just giving orders!
Posted by Toni at December 10, 2006 06:45 PMsometimes giving orders *is* easier. ;) plus it can be hard not to after spending a whole day at school doing that, but now SCHOOL IS OUT FOR SUMMER!!!
Never mind I spent a good 4 hours there yesterday. yikes.
Posted by: giffy at December 20, 2006 02:35 PM