Well the daughter person fessed up about the boyfriend though she claims they are not going out, just very good friends. Very good, from what I saw on Friday myself.
Then on Saturday she wanted to be able to stay with him.
She's seventeen, and perfectly capable of telling porkies, so I thought it was in my best interests to let her stay with him. But I am not happy about it. Not Happy.
Its not that I don't trust her. I do actually. I trust her to do the safety first stuff. For me, casual sex is not a good thing, and it seems that she is not planning to sleep with everyone who might fancy her. So I trust her to only be sleeping with someone she really wants to be with.
But I don't trust this boyfriend. I don't trust any male of that age (17 years) to have Ctrol over his hormones. Or any female either. That's either me being realistic from my own memories or from what I have observed as a teacher, or I am just a sad cynical negative type, making wild generalisations about teenagers.
Tell you what though - I didn't sleep well on Saturday.
She came home at lunch on Sunday while I was out and went to her room, shut the door and went to sleep. I had no idea she was home...
At five o'clock I was thinking I should ring her and tell her to come home. I was doing some tidying up and went into her room, whereupon she said hello. I got one hell of a fright.
Turned out she had gone home with her female friend, and not spent the night at the boyfriend's place after all. She went with girlfriend at 3 o'clock, about the exact time I was lying in bed awake worrying about her and wether she was all right.
Here's hoping I learn something from this!
Posted by Toni at May 8, 2006 09:22 AMHaving your first sexual experience consensually, safely, with someone of your own age, without having to lie about where you are, sounds like a pretty good start to me.
Posted by: suraya at May 12, 2006 11:28 AM