A friend has got pregnant, and is now going to move her child into the father's home in another part of the country. I think on the stress list that moving is really high up there, moving in with a new partner with his own son from a previous relationship is really high up there, and having a child is really stressful. Add to that the difficult relationship with the father of her first child!, which is mainly Cducted through the family court. It seems like too much to ask of anyone, let alone someone who is a recovered anorexic... I hope she makes it through next year, I really do. She is a lovely person.
c is starting to show the strains of being uprooted from his own home and being brought here. He is very clingy, and quite difficult to be with. Its not that he is unhappy, it is that he is not feeling secure. h is still his normal happy relaxed self. It will be good when dad gets back and we all settle back into a routine. At home.
I love having a routine at home. It means the stuff that has to get done like laundry and housework gets done without having to think about it, and thinking about stuff like that is harder than doing it. It means I then have everything ready to do stuff that just happens. The clothes are clean so we can get changed and go out. There is food in the cupboards, so we can have people round without having to shop for the event. The house is clean enough to welcome in anyone who comes to the door. I don't have to apologise for the state of anything. Wish I had know how to do this years ago! Its made my life happier and more relaxed.
Posted by Toni at September 7, 2004 09:30 AM