After slacking around on Saturday, re-reading The Changeover by M Mahy in the afternoon, and watching the Matrix on Saturday night (having never seen it before; finally I understand the Tui beer ad) I worked diligently on Sunday on the data sheet. I am up to row 431, about half of which is typed and the other half pasted. In between working I did virtuous things like folding the washing, and when I was sick of my goody two shoes self, I got in the car and went off to Shona's.
I've known Shona for a while now, we met when I was boarding at her mother's. I was going in the door, and she was walking out, carrying a toothbrush, which she was going to use to clean a saddle. I slept in Shona's bed that night, and she slept on top of the wardrobe. She is easily my best friend. Which of course brings me to why? We look alike, so much so we are usually accused of being sisters. One woman got very upset about it, she thought I was taking the piss out of her when I said we were not sisters - I had to go and explain that we really weren't sisters, and I was not being nasty - strange what upsets people. And S and I think the same about a lot of things. But definitely not all. And I couldn't say I understand her completely. To my unabiding astonishment (I am still gobsmacked), S had a baby when she was ~25, just to see if she was fertile, and then proved it by having two more. She loves babies, and that still doesn't fit with my perception of Shona. She gave me a magnet this year that says it all: you'll always be my friend, you know too much!, and it is kindof true, we know each other extremely well, and we know now that even if we upset each other, we didn't mean it. We trust each other enough now that even when someone is utterly offensive in something she says, we know the other is a) speaking before the brain is engaged and didn't mean to be so offensive or b) is saying what she really believes. Other friends come and go, but I always know where I stand with Shona.
I did some spinning in the weekend on the spindle, but I ain't sure of that new link over there. I'll think on it
Four hundred and thirty something lines of data. Someone should be proud of me!
Posted by Toni at June 2, 2003 08:27 PMI *love* The Changeover!
It's so important to have friends you've known 'forever', huh? My closest friends are those I've known since high school - in fact, I guess I consider them more family than friends by now. I was reading in an old Grace magazine an article by a woman who said that in the fifties when you got married you stopped talking to your friends about anything important - you were sposed to get all your social interaction from your husband and any implication otherwise would reflect badly on him. To other women you only talked gossip or social events. She said she had to relearn how to make friends in the 70s and 80s. Thank god times have changed, eh?
Posted by: iona at June 3, 2003 02:54 PM